The universe itself is duality and paradoxly. I don't see it as opposite. Like you well said, nothing just is! Nothing will fall into our lap if we do nothing. Everything in this world needs intention and action. A masculine that does not take initiative will not be able to keep a feminine even if ment to be. No feminine with standards will chase after a masculine...that's kids , immature behaviour, or even worse, codependency that leads to very unhealthy dynamics. Chasing is one thing, taking initiative another. Sometimes I think people mix both.

I get perplexed when people think that manifestation is just you think and happens. Puff, magic. It's a good excuse not to act. If people don't demonstrate and make the other feel appreciated and if we don't make the other a priority in life, people will leave, even if ment to be. Hence, if there is will there is a way. It's complementary.

I have heard a lot of men that lost and regret some female in their life because they were not in a good place, still attached to an ex, or hurt because of an ex. What if the woman they reject was their match, and not the one they think it was ?

What if , like you said, the fate bring two people together, and one reject the other, because one of them still healing from an unhealthy connection, and totally unaware of this, still thinks that the unhealthy ex, was the one???

We humans, sometimes get stuck in what we do not have. As soon as we get it...bored...