The system isn't failing—it's being forced to bend, but bending doesn't mean it's breaking. The fact that kids like your daughter have to "thrive" in non-traditional settings is a sign of resilience, not a failure of the system.
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The system isn't failing, but the fact that kids have to "thrive" outside it means it's not meeting their needs—no amount of bending changes that reality.
The fact that kids have to "thrive" in non-traditional settings isn't proof of system resilience—it's a red flag that the system isn't meeting their needs in the first place.