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The *RIGHT* True ❤️❤️ Love of Your Life (LOML) may be the *ONLY* person who REALLY matters to you, but they should *NOT* be cuz co-dependent relationships are *NOT* healthy nor sustainable!

Your LOML should be ideally, your best friend but *NOT* the only best friend you have!

It is essential that you have other close friends whom you can talk to, hang out with and discuss/vent about your LOML because there will be times in which they do things which may drive you nuts cuz everyone has their quirks, and there is no such thing as the Perfect Person!

Humans ≠ Robots

To be human is to be imperfect!

You should have shared friends, but it is VERY IMPORTANT to have *SEPARATE* friends also, who knew you *BEFORE* you met the Love of Your Life!

And co-dependent couples are super annoying and boring to me!

It’s 2 *individual* people coming together to form a couple and partnership, and *NOT* a merge of forming into one entity, whether married or not and have kids or not.

You should be able to fully function on your *OWN* as a person and be happy with your *OWN* company rather than expecting your romantic partner to “complete you” or fix you or magically somehow make you into your ideal self!

The ONLY 100% guaranteed relationship is with the SELF!

That needs to be found and accepted 1st before you can truly find and accept your Love of Your Life!

If you’re not comfy with who you are and FULLY accept yourself and LIKE yourself — including the weaknesses and negative qualities — how can you expect someone else to?

It means you are *NOT* ready for the Love of Your Life!

Meaningless sex is just fucking, a physical moments of pleasure (for some, depending upon the partner).

It’s not anywhere close to MEANINGFUL sex with someone you truly love — the ultimate connection and literally being at ONE with another person!

It’s on a whole another level than simply fucking!

That’s why they call it “making love”!

And the *RIGHT* True ❤️❤️ Love Match, the Love of Your Life, will blend seamless into your friendship group.

Your close, old friends who KNOW you, should be able to tell it they are the RIGHT person for you because they can just tell by how you are around them and the True ❤️❤️ Love match will light you up and EVERYONE can see that it’s the PERFECT ❤️❤️ MATCH, from body language of you two when together.

And if close with your family *prior* to meeting the Love of Your Life, the RIGHT romantic partner should be able to blend in seamlessly also. They will also be able to tell if it’s the RIGHT person!

For the son, the Mother (or mother figure) will be able to tell if the Girl is THE GIRL he should marry!

If the girl, instead, causes a family rift in which it was close before, then she is the WRONG girl!

Your tips are so good! thank you! 🙏🏻🫡

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You’re welcome! You’ll be learning a LOT of life lessons in your 20s.

So it’s best to be clear minded in thinking rather than in a haze of weed.

And they’ll be plenty of girls you’ll like so don’t worry re getting over that girl.

Date around when you’re fully READY to open up your heart again and don’t do anything stupid like marrying too young (20s) cuz the probability of you being in a happy, loving relationship with whom you’ll grow old with is VERY LOW.

20s are about exploring, trying new things, adventures, learning life lessons and and figuring out WHO you are.