to be honest it was holding back my dating life and most importantly my goal of having a family. when i brought a woman home after a date for a night cap, a roommates had just smoked weed out on the back deck. she walks in and said “ew it stinks like weed in here.” i said “sorry that’s my roommate”. she asked bluntly: “why do you have roommates?” and i thought about it a lot —and felt she was right. (it didnt work out with her but not for this reason haha) but it was time to move on. now i am going to take a few months to decide if it’s too big a house for just me. sorry, wordy answer. it was a lot of fun but i guess neverland is no more!
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Yeah, that makes sense....
I could see how co-living could help with the much-written-about "loneliness epidemic", but it's also something that's fairly outside of the norm... Especially in the American context it could be seen in a similar vein as "living with your parents", i.e. a sign of economic privation.
i can definitely see that — i was fascinated with the idea of co-living. bought some books on it (very popular in europe it seems?). we are lacking community in so many contexts, co-living seems like it would definitely help. but one house with 6 people type co-living only works until a certain point/age. i think more college dorm-style living (first floor shared with community kitchen and living room) with each bedroom having little living spaces too maybe. but that kind of exists in those mammoth new apartment complexes (in the states). they have common areas that residents hardly ever use. so it’s more a societal issue perhaps? covid made us retreat more into ourselves … i think i want to start a monthly hangout / discussion group / something in my first floor. see how that evolves.
Yeah that's interesting, I'm in one of those large complexes -- advantage from an #urbanism perspective that I'm very close to lots of mass transit and "car free" living options, etc.
But it's not a very "social" place, and it could be more so. I use the common areas frequently, despite a bit of "tragedy of commons" maintenance situation, because (a) I want to take advantage of them and (b) I want to Be the Change in terms of being more visibly social.
Group activities are a great start. Game nights, etc...