Based on my personal experiences and observations—specifically within circles familiar with Chinese culture and excluding strangers or people from other ethnic backgrounds—this phenomenon is quite prevalent: When you are in a weak or disadvantaged position, it is often unwise to be overly kind, soft, or eager to please others (such as offering help beyond your responsibilities) in hopes of receiving positive returns or reciprocation. In most cases, people tend to take your kindness for granted, and some may even exploit or take advantage of you more aggressively. Of course, there are exceptions—not everyone behaves this way—but I’m referring to the majority. Therefore, when you’re in a weaker position and considering whether to offer help within your capacity, it’s crucial to first assess the other person’s character.
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