Replying to hltn

I see this a lot. Personally, I don't think kids should be taught that doing chores = getting paid. Doing chores is a basic requirement - learning to take care of what is yours and doing what needs to be done without receiving validation.

As a parent, you're going to buy them things anyway. When you die, you're going to be giving them your wealth.

Reward them for going over the top. Reward them for providing value not otherwise expected within the household.

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Leviticus Mathew 2mo ago đź’¬ 1

My kids have chore lists that aren't paid. The dishes are a family chore cause we all dirty them. The trash is produced by all 4 of us. They are free to decline my offer to do it for pay, and play for longer until they argue or get rowdy, then get ordered an extra duty by their mother.

Incentivizing them tends to eliminate the grumbling altogether. I buy them things beyond necessities, yes but not everything they ask for and by earning their own spending money it teaches them to respect the value of their own labor. By watching that value grow as the asset grows, it teaches them to have a lower time preference.

They compete with each other over who has earned more Bitcoin each week.

"There are many ways to parent. The most wrong way is to not."

Did your kids work for you entirely unpaid through their youth?

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debtwielder 2mo ago đź’¬ 1

The kids have to do “one free chore,” to contribute to the family but then they can do unlimited paid chores…

…including enriching/ educational activities like reading to me (I get to pick the book, after all it’s work), writing essays, taking notes on YouTube videos I like, etc. I’ve even paid them in btc when it’s money they don’t intend to spend right away (rare lol).

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Leviticus Mathew 2mo ago

I pay em cash to read the monthly Tuttle Twins magazine. That cash gets spent on treats at the dollar tree almost immediately Lol