Her "therapy" is causing lost time with her family. That justifies a new coping mechanism.
Would it be okay if I started smoking again because it helps me feel better?
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Try to explain your feelings to her and find a way to solve this if this issue hurts your family that much.
Your viewpoint sounds rational, but woman are generally irrational, so..
Anyway I believe communication is the key.
I've tried every way. That's why I need a professional. She's just stuck in her ways. She has to do things a certain way in a certain order. It's so unbelievably frustrating.