I’m not in a place where I can listen at the moment, based on your textual quote and based on what I’ve seen and where I’ve personally been in the past, I would agree.

“Toleration” smacks of condescension. A power dynamic is created where someone claiming moral superiority deigns to “tolerate” someone or something they consider damaged (at best) or inferior, or even evil (at worst).

I don’t think even at my worst I ever associated “tolerance” with individuals either - tolerance was towards the idea or concept, and individual people I either accepted or rejected. There’s still a lot of bias there of course.

Tolerance as a term reminds me of unconscious bias. Stating you tolerate someone means you are on some level (conscious or not) implying some superiority.

I think the goal is to grow past that and learn to accept people as individuals. Just my two sats.