the key to decentralising power is having a good grasp on how it is in the place where you want to have this power, so that you choose a place in which you have enough power to match any possible attacks that others may execute on you
for a person who does not wish to increase their power, but simply maintain a holding, this implies that you must go somewhere you are equally powerful as your competitors, that a steady state can be achieved with minimal overhead of the necessity of violence
power can be amplified by network effects, so if you are not interested in being in charge of people, and just want your own little estate, you would have to do this away from large populations of largely controlled individuals, where it is easier to gain cooperation with your neighbours because they also wish only to have their estate boundaries respected.
a long winded way of saying that an anarchocapitalist will be up against constant aggression in proportion with the density of population and thus implies that you can only attain this live-and-let-live situation by being in a rural area, or other kind of outpost/frontier land/settlement