i've used gossip

it does not let you control who you request events from nor who you post them to

it was so unpleasant to use, as a relay dev, that i refuse to touch that shit again, and i have all my rust tooling here ready to build it, i'm not fucking doing it again, it doesn't work, it won't even fucking buzz my relay no matter how hard i try, and i have it on a fucking reverse proxy wireguard connection with a domain name, what FUCKING more do you want?

which is why i hate mike, even though i don't really hate mike that much. but i hate him, fuck you