This is really really really really hard for most people to understand. We've all been so conditioned to believe that someone is always in control that it's really difficult to conceive that something created by humans could be fundamentally outside of any single person's or group's control.

To me, it's actually the starting point for trying to help people understand nostr or bitcoin. Once they see that it is in fact possible that no one is in control AND it works, there rest becomes easier.