first thing i have discovered is it appears that right off the bat after mere minutes my relay's VIRT field in top is showing 7.5Gb
and high CPU usage
i have some debugging to do tomorrow
the RES field is also slowly ticking up and right now at 3gb so there is YET ANOTHER resource leak here somewhere, but at least ... well, idk... before it was CPU and that was a shit, and now it's memory, and it bombs the process
yes, the resident memory amount keeps increasing, so there is some place in this code that is consuming memory and not letting it go, and it's not just threads this time, it's actual memory