What happens if others won’t let you chose who you want to be? You looking different is somehow ‘requiring’ others to go along with it? This is a friction point.
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Never worry about the others. Live your life.
Much of who you are is determined by your biology and you don't get the choice though, right?
Nature/nurture is usually 50/50. Sex is biological and gender is socially constructed. That’s just the definition of those categories. Identity is a blend of both.
No, that’s kinda the point. Nobody can take your will from you. (see: Epictetus, etc. ancient Stoics)
You only control four things: opinion, pursuit, aversion, desire. “Or in a word… everything of your own doing.”
Whatever the external results (which might inform the use of all of the above) you still are who you choose to be.
That doesn’t mean anything goes: that means everything BUT that one thing can and will be taken from you, even if it SHOULD be, in some sense, respected by society.