yeah
there aren't any clear answers are there?
there's room for conversation about governance here also...
its naive to think open source projects don't have de facto governance structures. the greater community pretending its taboo only prevents those "goalposts" you talk about.
it increases unclarity about what function the project serves.
i think this is a problem with both Bitcoin and Monero
but Monero can still kinda get away with it because its so much smaller.
on Bitcoin it just means nothing can change, ie premature ossification.