Malicious actors don't try to exploit these insecurities. They have been doing so. In fact, they've nearly perfected it. It's a millenia old practice. Don't get too wound up over it. When it comes to love, both yourself and nostr:npub1m4ny6hjqzepn4rxknuq94c2gpqzr29ufkkw7ttcxyak7v43n6vvsajc2jl are spot on, imo. I would like to add something as well: many people nowadays seem to underestimate the amount of emotional endurance that's required during long-term relationships. They would rather use things such as dating apps that "match" you with others based on what online characteristics they present to you, when in reality it's just better to go out and meet someone and find out all those things during face-to-face interactions. Having some mutual characteristics doesn't mean you'll fall in love in any way 🙄.