I feel better now that I see you're not just a spammer, but I feel the solution for the self-custody issue is to get people off lightning entirely
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I understand what you mean. However, I believe that when Lightning is used properly, it offers significant advantages. The crucial point is that as many people as possible run their own Lightning nodes instead of relying on custodial solutions.
Problem with that is basically "your own lightning node" is just a euphemism for a server you control, it's not actual self custody
As far as I understand, self-custody means personally holding the private key that gives you access to your onchain bitcoins.
A Lightning node also holds private keys, but in addition it maintains the channel state, including the current balance of the channel. If your channel peer agrees to close the channel, both parties’ respective balances are settled back to their on-chain addresses.
In my view, on-chain self-custody and Lightning self-custody are essentially identical when it comes to overall network health. In both cases you hold your own keys and contribute to decentralization.
The key difference is the security model: the private key of a Lightning node must remain on a server that is always online, which makes it significantly more exposed.
Ultimately, though, it’s up to each individual to decide what level of risk and convenience they are comfortable with.
Or is any part of my understanding incorrect?
Your understanding is correct, but since you have to pay an on-chain fee for closing a lightning channel, it would slowly drain your balance over time.
With this design, you can't just be ready for free to send and receive transactions. Perfect for bankers
With Bitcoin, transactions cost money, but being ready for them is "free," meaning actual self custody
True, fair point