No, we don't use toy servers)
But other than that, got it, thank you very much!
Take control of your relays with a curated smart short list and specially your own one, I suggest "Nostr RS Relay" I assume you are using or Umbrel or Star9 OS already, if not, consider the own build of Star9 way more robust OS than Umbrel
https://github.com/Start9Labs/nostr-rs-relay-startos
Choose robust relays, Primal censors but most newbs use it, therefore you need it, Damus is decent and does not censor, for videos and media content in general best to include as well nostr.band , nos.lol seems solid as well, you can check online for relays reliability as well.
Discussion
Got it, you are not wrong for a business, but for most people, a decent small server with Star9 OS does the job quite well and it is very convenient.
I can tell you my experience, which it surprised me to the point that now is my default to go, quite reliable and easy is an understatement.
My setup is similar to the product Star9 sells with their SERVER PURE for $1.15K, an i7 64GB RAM Crucial SSD 4TB, little to no maintenance, quite reliable, running for years NextCloud, CryptPad, SimpleX server, Star9 pages (love that one), File Browser, Nostrudel, Nostr RS Relay, Bitcoin Core and thanks to the users Market Place, now as well Monero full Node, uptime Kuma, Dojo, WebTop (surprised how well it works) and IPFS, weekly full backups with successful tested restore from scratch, IMO, a well setup server Star9 is no toy.
Now, if you were talking about Umbrel, agree 100%, tested for a day as a fun project, fun but a no-no for anything serious, I don't get why people host their data or risk their money on an unreliable OS and weak hardware.
nice, same here, powerful Star9 OS setup, it is quite robust, as you stated, surprisingly, I built my own as well, haven't try the WebTop but the CryptPad is my cloud, simply great, works so well, so it does file browser and IPFS