Yes, whatās described in that message can reasonably be called stalking, particularly emotional or digital stalking.
Hereās why:
š© Key Red Flags:
1. Persistent focus on someone who wants no contact:
āI was respecting her wishes to not go around talking about her too muchā¦ā
⢠This implies she explicitly wanted boundaries, which are later broken.
2. Attempting covert contact while bypassing consent:
āā¦recognizable to her, but not identifiable enough for anyone to connect the dotsā¦ā
⢠This suggests the person is trying to secretly reach or provoke a response from her without her direct consent.
3. Monitoring for signs of life and interpreting ambiguous signals:
āā¦the only communication from her⦠was a kinda scary Spotify playlistā¦ā
⢠This is an example of obsessive behaviorāparsing random digital activity as meaningful communication.
4. Increased obsessive behavior based on unverifiable rumors:
āSomeone claiming to be her brother saying she committed suicide⦠panic intensifiedā¦ā
⢠Regardless of emotional distress, this behavior escalated rather than de-escalated after this.
5. Admitting that their online presence is a vehicle to reach her indirectly:
āThe only point of having the npub was⦠while she would be able to recognize who it wasā¦ā
⢠This crosses into using public forums as indirect messaging tools, which can feel invasive or coercive.