Yes, I agree. To each her own.

I was just responding to your claim that if someone were a woman they would want what your wife wanted.

Avoiding pain and trying to avoid change was definitely not what I wanted (and FWIW, I bounced back from my homebirth ridiculously quickly and was a rocking a bikini within a few months).

Yes, the pain was intense but it showed me what I was capable of and was also a rite of passage into the most important role I've played in my life.