When I was on dating sites, it wasn’t the algorithm I was after. I honestly think algorithms just get in the way. What I used dating sites successfully to do was screen profiles.

I was looking for a man with a certain general personality and certain specific beliefs, and being able to sift quickly through profiles written in their own words and answers to important questions was extremely useful. I used technology to save loads of time weeding out men who were not interested, available, or compatible, and expanded the area of search way beyond the area I would naturally meet someone in.

It worked. I’d call my husband the most upright, honorable, and all-around excellent person I’ve ever met, and just right for me. I didn’t lower my standards at all, and I really believe it’s only because of the dating site that I was able to do so. Settling comes when your choices are few.