the problem is if you are an asshat you aren't followed by anyone i follow

but actually, you are, and i assure you, you can already auth to wss://mleku.realy.lol right now, probably your client already is, if you are using amethyst

i thought a lot about it and i figured that making my mute list (and it can be multiple users) the blocklist for a relay, and allowing everyone who a set of users are following, and all of the ones they are following, to write to the relay

that means all my friends friends could become my friend and message me

what i designed is a minimal frame for what is reasonable - most of the 11k people who are allowed to write to my relay, i probably wouldn't hate them, because they are all people who my follows follow

it's all automatic, and because it allows anyone in that list to post all their events, it seems to have quickly accumulated a lot of these kinds of events, automatically