I'm currently trying to figure out what I would expect from a man 😁
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I ended up married to someone way better than what I was looking for. Maybe low expectations was a tactic. 😂🤷♀️
I was like, I hope he really likes me and shows up on time to dates and goes to church regularly and smells good.
I mean, it's a short list, but that only leaves a tiny selection, really.
I think only 10% of German men attend church weekly, and most of them are probably not looking for a wife, so like 96% of men were immediately out of the running. 😂
I used to have no expectations at all. That ultimately led to me having an ex-husband 😁 Maybe I should do things differently in future. I shouldn't have any specific ideas about what a man should be like, but instead make it clear to myself what I definitely don't want. What characteristics and behaviors are taboo, what can't I tolerate
Yeah, I hate tardiness or ghosting and whatnot. I need to see some enthusiasm.
And I can't do drama or mindgames or whatnot. I don't have the social skills to deal with that isht.
I have trust issues. So honesty is important to me. I'm the type of person who prefers to be told what's going on, then there's bound to be a solution. I don't believe that everything is always perfect. I hate manipulation. It's tiring and a waste of time. I also hate it when someone is late but I think I would be willing to compromise at that point 😂
I get panicky, if someone is late or doesn't respond to attempts to communicate. Can't handle the stress.
I go crazy when someone is late, but I'm extreme about that. How do you think I felt when I was stuck in traffic on the way to see you two? I had to calm down a lot. That was one of my toughest tests. But I would try to work on that. Ghosting is another thing. I take that personally. Above all, I don't understand it. Why not say what's going on?
I know and we're such worryworts that we were constantly checking for updates. 😂 Nerdy chicks are a tough crowd. *meltdown incoming*
Just the idea of ghosting makes me want to tear my hair out. geez
I made a list of values I was seeking. Then I asked myself how I lived up to those values. Just looked at it again. Current boyfriend is really living up to my list.
