I don't know what you're expecting exactly...

Being sovereign means you do it yourself, and not deferred to others. It is the only way to ensure censorship resistance.

If you're not willing to learn how to use these tools, then you will rely on someone else that is running them for you, and they can basically do what they want, there is no protection against that. in that case the best you can do is find a friend that you trust, that will run it for you. You can also spread your notes among many relays, to ensure no single choking point.

But yeah, there are no guarantees for anything in life.