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I have to share something because it's literally so crazy. Almost two years ago, I met a guy on Tinder, and we went on a walk just to meet each other quickly since we lived so close to each other.

The walk ended abruptly because it started raining, but he offered to walk me home since he had an umbrella and I didn't. I am kind of naïve and I thought he was just being nice at the time.

We didn’t hit it off over text, the conversation died down and I didn’t think much of it.

A few days later, I bumped into him on the street I live in and he said: “I was just on my way to you”. I thought he was joking, I laughed it off and went my own way.

A couple weeks later I was coming home and I saw him standing in my building in front of my apartment…

Again, my first thought was that it’s a crazy coincidence 😐

But then he started to ask me if he can come in. Ngl in that moment I got frightened a bit because he is extremely tall and he could have manhandled me very easily. Thankfully I was with my bff so we just told him to leave.

But then the messages started pouring in, and they ranged from romantic to downright offensive

I blocked him, but he still found ways to contact me every few months. He would send recordings of himself playing the guitar, singing some romantic songs, and a few moment later he would call me horrible names.

I was travelling a lot last year but when I came home for the summer my neighbour told me she had seen him waiting in front of your building almost every night. After a few days home, I caught him staring at me from the street. I was pretty freaked out but I didn’t wanna call the police because I just didn’t wanna deal with it.

I avoided going to the balcony for a week but then one night at 1 am I went out to just enjoy the peace and quiet of the night. That’s when something hit me in the face. He threw a piece of paper at me with a message asking me how I felt about him. I lost my cool and started yelling at him. He didn’t say anything, he kind of looked like he was about to cry but then he finally said, "nobody smells like you" which gave me chills.

I called the police, but by the time they got there he already left because he heard me call them and all they could do was write down his name. I traveled for the rest of year, so I wasn't home much, but when I came back, he started messaging me again, saying he couldn't forget me and the way I smell, and that he wished I was pregnant with his child. 😵‍💫

I blocked that number too, but this morning, I got six missed calls from an unknown number, and when I finally answered, it was him.

I don't know what to do. I'm leaving again in nine days, so part of me just wants to let it go and not deal with it, but another part of me wants to call the police again…

I’m so sorry 🫂 it sounds really scary and awful💜

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Can you believe it?? A couple of days after I told you about him…. Like I feel he felt me talking about it ahhahahahahaha

Omg that is so scary 🫣 I was already freaked out when you told me about it. Can’t imagine what you’re going through, but he seems weird and unstable (sorry) ✨

It’s ok, I’m not THAT scared of him but yeah… he’s definitely a creep

I guess it’s a good thing you’re not scared 🤙

Still, he’s a weird creep.

Hope you find a solution to this craziness soon. It’s not fun having someone following you like that 🫣💜

Hahahahhaha yeah, I mean I hope he’s not actually following me hahahaha I haven’t seen him at least…

Hahaha 🤞 It’s still called stalking whether is on foot or phone 😂

😬

Not cool 😬

Have another guy in your life that can have a “talk” with him? Think that’s the best solution

Hahahaha

Honestly, that’s a pretty good advice 🤙😂 I support that

If that was my sister he would be swimming with the fishes

Omg hahahaha

Good!! 😂🐠

Omg ahhahahahah damn…

Hahahahahaha

That’s straight up stalking at the bare minimum, with clearly unwanted sexual advances too. I would 100% file another report if I were you. It’s clear the dude doesn’t respect boundaries and you don’t know him enough to gauge where his limits are. Be safe

Yes - stalking straight up. I would report him as BostonWine said. Keep the authorities updated. Horrible situation. Never used Tinder but are there reporting mechanisms within that? Dated a lady who was being stalked by an ex and it was a massive problem. Only subsided when he moved on to next victim. So wrong! Keep safe.

Yeah, Tinder is a cespool.

Omg scary stuff 🫣😳

You have his name, phone, and photo (from tinder). Maybe other details he has sent or told you. Police should have this info — and he may have been reported by other women as well