Yestr man.. I had to learn it the hard way, and hopefully one day I will have the opportunity and luck to have kids and teach them what I had to endure and go through because of my lack, how it deeply influenced me and how to avoid that, how to be able to stay stick to your principles.. glad you were able to, I still feel sick thinking about it, I went against my guts, against my intuition, and against friends and family, because of course I was super skeptical and critized for my thinking.. it is what it is, I learned from that. Always trust my intuition, no matter what other think, because I am the person I will spent the most of my life with.