I have to share something because it's literally so crazy. Almost two years ago, I met a guy on Tinder, and we went on a walk just to meet each other quickly since we lived so close to each other.

The walk ended abruptly because it started raining, but he offered to walk me home since he had an umbrella and I didn't. I am kind of naïve and I thought he was just being nice at the time.

We didn’t hit it off over text, the conversation died down and I didn’t think much of it.

A few days later, I bumped into him on the street I live in and he said: “I was just on my way to you”. I thought he was joking, I laughed it off and went my own way.

A couple weeks later I was coming home and I saw him standing in my building in front of my apartment…

Again, my first thought was that it’s a crazy coincidence 😐

But then he started to ask me if he can come in. Ngl in that moment I got frightened a bit because he is extremely tall and he could have manhandled me very easily. Thankfully I was with my bff so we just told him to leave.

But then the messages started pouring in, and they ranged from romantic to downright offensive

I blocked him, but he still found ways to contact me every few months. He would send recordings of himself playing the guitar, singing some romantic songs, and a few moment later he would call me horrible names.

I was travelling a lot last year but when I came home for the summer my neighbour told me she had seen him waiting in front of your building almost every night. After a few days home, I caught him staring at me from the street. I was pretty freaked out but I didn’t wanna call the police because I just didn’t wanna deal with it.

I avoided going to the balcony for a week but then one night at 1 am I went out to just enjoy the peace and quiet of the night. That’s when something hit me in the face. He threw a piece of paper at me with a message asking me how I felt about him. I lost my cool and started yelling at him. He didn’t say anything, he kind of looked like he was about to cry but then he finally said, "nobody smells like you" which gave me chills.

I called the police, but by the time they got there he already left because he heard me call them and all they could do was write down his name. I traveled for the rest of year, so I wasn't home much, but when I came back, he started messaging me again, saying he couldn't forget me and the way I smell, and that he wished I was pregnant with his child. 😵‍💫

I blocked that number too, but this morning, I got six missed calls from an unknown number, and when I finally answered, it was him.

I don't know what to do. I'm leaving again in nine days, so part of me just wants to let it go and not deal with it, but another part of me wants to call the police again…

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You should talk to the police about filing a restraining order. Safety is important.

Ughh that’s not the advice I wanted to hearrr :((( I don’t think he would actually do anything to me tho… and the police here are so dumb 😖

I know but it’s the safest thing to do. The choice is still yours ofc. Stalking behavior is serious and ignoring it doesn’t often solve the problem as you’ve seen.

Yeah I guess you’re right… thanks for your input

Sure thing. Not a fun situation but you’ve got options. Hope this resolves for you soon.

Thank youu 🌸✨✨ me too ahhahah

What country if you don’t mind me asking?

Probably Germany

Tax payer money fixes this. Talk to the police.

Hahahaha they’re pretty useless here but yeah I guess it doesn’t hurt to report it

If the police is useless, then it won't hurt if someone beat the hell out of this weirdo. Have a pepper spray with you all the time if you aren't familiar with martial arts

Hhahahahahaha unfortunately, I’m not… but a pepper spray is necessary abhahahaha

I’m so sorry to hear you are dealing with this. Report it so it’s on record. Depending on your jurisdiction the police will be of limited help.

- practice situational awareness at all times, if it feels wrong it is wrong

- always be armed, depending on where you live that means different things

jeff Cooper “principals of personal defense” is a quick read on how to protect yourself.

Ughh

Thank you for the advice

🤙🏼 I’ve got a little sister. And a newborn daughter. I’m very sensitive to this stuff.

Worth a call to your Dad for sure.

Doesn’t sound safe, just be vigilant and stay safe

I don’t think he is really dangerous but yeah, I will hahha

Have you got any guy friends that can pose as your BF, hang out at your place etc and hopefully the weird guys does one!?

I diddd he already thinks I have a bf…

He absolutely loves you! Lol he’s gonna end in a psychiatric hospital or in jail because of you 🤣🤣🥴 stay safe!

Hahahahaha lol this has nothing to do with love….. he was obviously insane before we met…

Yes I know! But for him, in his head, you are his intrusive thoughts! Maybe I’ve should say he thinks that he loves you.

Wtf! This is not love AT ALL. This is sick obsession and a recognised problem that is dealt with and taken very seriously by the authorities in the UK at least.

Its a problem that its taken seriously everywhere! But I can feel him. He needs help too. That’s why they say love is a mental disease 😅😅

No. If you’re mature you move on. He might need some help psychologically but it’s certainly not love.

I agree. But everyone makes his own definition about everything, love too.

And his definition is wrong and immature. And time for him to accept rejection and move on.

I don't understand how weirdos like this function. Does he have like a job and friends and stuff?

yeah idk.. apparently he is a very active member in the church... that's how my neighbour knows him, she actually told me he and his family are very sweet... idk

First of all, make sure the police have a file on him. This makes future action a lot faster since they won't need time then to get their shit together

Secondly, the guy needs serious help. It sounds like you'd be able to get in touch with his family or pastor/reverend. Inform them what's going on and let them deal with it.

Three: pepperspray

Hot chick problems 😂

oh wow sorry you had to deal with this shit. i would totally contact the police this is unbelievably disturbing. be safe xx

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