Yea that's what I was saying, many were brainwashed into believing they don't want it so then of course they won't give it to the other person in a relationship.
Discussion
Brainwashed, or worse emotionally broken. What we see as strength some see as weakness. Relationship can become a power game for them.
All I know is that I need what you have described, and the steps needed to get there scare the living hell out of me. Got to trust and be vulnerable to find the right person, and that has its dangers.
You took the words right out of my mouth with your 1st paragraph.
And yes, it takes trust but first it's about having trust in ourselves and building our self-confidence. When we're sure about ourselves, everything is easier.