Every child is a universe of potential. There’s no perfect way to raise kids. And yes, we’ll keep making mistakes, just like our parents and their parents did. But here’s what’s been working for me “so far”:

• Watch your kids fall and fight every instinct to rush in. That split second when they pick themselves up? That’s where resilience is born.

• Hand them a “broken/fixable” toy and step back. The pride in their eyes when they fix it themselves is worth more than a thousand “good job” stickers.

• Spend time on the floor, building caves with pillows and tents with bedsheets. These aren’t just games. they’re the foundation of trust that’ll carry you through the tough times.

• When they succeed, celebrate their effort, not just their victory. Show them you’re proud in ways they’ll remember forever.

• When they fail, high-five their courage to try. Life isn’t about perfect scores; it’s about getting back up, covered in dirt, grinning.

• Give them missions, not orders. Watch them transform from “I can’t” to “I did it!” That’s the real parenting high for me.

• Sometimes the best teaching happens when we shut up and let them figure it out. Their solutions surprise me every time.

This isn’t parenting advice. it’s just battle-tested moments 😂. Take what resonates and leave what doesn’t.

Would love to hear your stories: what’s been working for you and what hasn’t?

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I needed these today. I’ve been going through a tough father season lately, especially with my two little ones. Thank you for sharing. 🙏🏻

Glad this resonated with you Kyle. Parenting has its tough seasons indeed. We’ve got to keep going. Feel free to share!

Nice list, I agree with all of it.

Mine's a 7yo girl.

I've been very open and true to her from the start. Giving my reasoning behind all actions regarding her and myself. And it paid off because now, she doesn't question my intentions and knows when I tell her to do something I have her best interests in mind. While also explaining to her that there's tons of lying in the world, such as the news and food packages and santa clause.

She still gets to join in the whole christmas presents under the tree thing, but she was made aware from the start that it's just something parents do.

Also "Look at me" or "look what I made daddy" doesn't necessarily deserve a "good job!" from me. I need to genuinely like what she's showing me. Which is usually when she spent work and time on it. Praise that comes too easy is almost as bad as no praise, ever.

I got a ton more but I'll leave it at that haha. Thanks for sharing some of yours.

🫡. being honest and explaining your reasoning is such a great way to build trust. Totally agree on genuine praise too. kids know the difference, and it makes all the effort they put in feel truly valued. Thanks for sharing, and feel free to drop more insights anytime!

This book is a must in the coming decade.

Thanks for sharing I’ll add it to my reading list