I have heard that argument too. But look at the data: two pools -- Mara and CKpool -- cited a higher orphan risk in their explanations for why they stopped ignoring the subsat tx filters.
Mara's post on this: https://x.com/PortlandHODL/status/1958520763083825640
CkPool's post on this: https://x.com/ckpooldev/status/1957235824451559746
Despite whatever peering strategies they are using, they both decided to construct blocks with fewer filtered transactions in them. I would be very surprised if that wasn't because lots of filtered transactions equates to slower block relay.