To become men, we need to go through lots of suffering, struggle, and hardship in our lives, in general, and also in relationships with women, particularly.

It is absolutely necessary to have several relationships, to see the real nature of women, and to have your heart broken and you dumped several times.

We, as boys, seek unconditional mother love, which we haven't received, and we try to find it from other women. They are not our mothers. There will be no unconditional love! It is impossible. Women give unconditional love only to their children.

We are trying to work for it, become subservient, and start to be seen as weak children... But we are not their children... And they become disgusted... and they dump us.

And because we view the relationship from seeking mother love perspective, we idolize these women, like we idolize our mothers... And it will always lead to the same results.

Unless we understand what is happening, unless we fix the relationship with our mothers, we can't grow into adult men.

But when we finally do it, when we meet our mothers and say that we are grateful for our lives they gave us, when we say that we love them very much and are proud, everything changes...

Now, we don't seek unconditional love anymore. Now, we go out and start communicating with different women. We see that there is no one soulmate, but many interesting beautiful women. And we can communicate easily. We become men. And we do whatever we want. And we create our worlds. And we invite women we like into our lives.