My mother-in-law’s vitals have stabilized. It’s been a long 2 weeks since she was admitted to the ICU.

She is beating the odds so far, thanks primarily to her strength & resilience.

No doubt the positive energy coming at her every day is a difference maker.

She’s still unconscious with brief moments of awareness. Whether it’s from the family who are here every day talking to her positively, music that’s being created & played to her, nurses who are taking care of her with great empathy or Father Saunders from London who keeps coming to bless her and lift her spiritually, she can hear while in this state and it must be giving her strength.

Thanks to LukeDashJr for the connection to Father Saunders, I am not a super religious person - but the odds of her surviving 13 days ago when she entering the ICU were about 15%.

Luke told me not to get my hopes up, but the extreme unction could have healing powers. I’m sure it helped.

She is looking better but we are not out of the woods yet. It can take up to 50 days for stem cell engraftment. We are at day 26.

Yesterday she was moved to another room in the ICU, a healing room with a big window and a beautiful view.

This big red tree is what she has a view of when she opens her eyes once or twice a day. I’m sure that gives her hope.

Today when we were visiting, she had a squirrel perched right at the window watching over her.

We have faith she’s going to continue beating the odds as we continually see things move baby steps in the right direction.

It’s been a very rough month and especially the last 2 weeks have been taxing.

My 13 year old daughter is pretty sad at times, I try to keep her busy or let her go on screens and play games to distract her.

Any suggestions for how to help my daughter process this would be very much appreciated.

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I’m sorry your family is going through this.

My suggestion would be a long walk, preferably in nature, and ask her how is she feeling. And then just listen. Let her talk.

Walking also has the extra benefit that she doesn’t need to maintain eye contact while sharing her feelings. This helps a lot with hard conversations.