Btw, I am actually curious what client you use. We like to test everything here.
Also, I completely understand if you don’t want to say this in public.
I'm not saying Damus is bad in any way, this is just nostr:npub1el3mgvtdjpfntdkwq446pmprpdv85v6rs85zh7dq9gvy7tgx37xs2kl27r twisting things. If Damus connects twice in a row to a relay that's almost not even a bug (although I think it shouldn't do it).
But I'm not even sure this is the issue, it could very well be on my side and I thought she could provide information to help me debug that, but instead what I got was some weird aggressive message.
