Your father and I may have more in common than I thought: I feel as if I've always been authentic most of the time (because everyone has, at least, a pinch of phoniness in them), and I know that I was good at being bad, which I did accept and embrace for a long time (service years), just like your dad.

FYI, I can't help but respect your dad a fair amount, for being able to embrace his bad side and still raise good children. Not my style, for sure, but still... need to respect the outcomes🤷.