as a child, you perceive parental control as malicious, and you're not expected to have a bigger perspective

as an adult, the challenge isn't so much that you're trying to control the child, but more that you are yourself a bit tired, sleepy and exhausted, and you worry, and worry is suffering, so you try to relieve it, and with how humans are put together by nature, controlling the child is how to alleviate this suffering.