Realize that is the key to moving toward something better. I believe we can find clearer and more effective ways to define specifications that are widely implemented. The current NIPs model doesn’t work well, it should have a standardized way to expose current implementations and their adoption. I’ve already written about this without much success, and you’re definitely not the only one frustrated by it.
But these are the challenges of building on a permissionless protocol with a form of "centralized" governance. That said, I think Nostr is worth the effort, and we should dive into this to find a better model.
On the other hand, I think, identifying some pain points is a good first step. It sheds light on the issues. But I get you mate, sometimes it’s incredibly frustrating 🫂