I can expand on it.

What defines great violence?

The amount of defense that it takes stop the threat. Which encompasses talking it out, and includes up to using deadly force.

What difference does this make to people that just don’t want to be harmed?

The way I see it is that the biggest strongest people always are tested. They have seen how violent the world is so they are ultimately more afraid of the repercussions of being violent and or receiving that violence. So the biggest don’t want to harm nor be harmed.

The Napoleon complex smaller and or less accomplished man always wants violence. I “ASS-U-ME” that is because he hasn’t been the receiver nor giver of great violence.

Why great violence? You said it best my friend.

Sometimes people just want to be left alone and don’t want to harm nor be harmed.

AND someone doesn’t want to take the hint.