Try other clients.

I'm the author of gossip, a desktop client, and I've been pushing for personal relays (NIP-65) where you can run your own and people who want to follow you will find it in your kind-10002 relay list and then pull your events from it -- this works with gossip and coracle today (at least). IMHO this is the only scalable long-term solution to the problem you're bringing up.