it's a red flag though

i've been through dozens of relationships of all kinds with manipulators and general psychos and one of the red flags is when they start bitching about someone from their past on a regular basis

i can say "oh yeah i had numerous bad ones" but i'm not gonna bring it up without someone actually prompting me to talk about my relationship history, i mean, i've had some shockers, seriously, i don't think you'd want to hear

and that's the difference

the manipulator, psycho type, thinks you need to know because they are narcissists