Both Apple and Android both equally suck but for different reasons. iOS sends about 3-5MBs of telemetry data back to Apple while Android sends 6-12MBs back to Google. Security wise Android has a much larger security flaw footprint than Apple but has options to harden by skilled users. Apple has a massive ecosystem and a bulletproof OS that rarely has any issues. Android OS is designed to work on the Pixel phone and not so much on others due to other hardware configurations.

I like iPhones for every reason you do. I find myself still wanting a Pixel running Graphene OS.