Robosats for the rescue!
1️⃣ It is over lightning
2️⃣ You can pay to onchain wallet
3️⃣ You can set your own fees. Hopefully it will be taken up. Usually around 3% it is picked up quite fast. It works even sometimes with 1% fee.
4️⃣ It is over Tor.
5️⃣ You can use new identity for each buy.