Today's unsolicited dating advice for bros:

Always do this. Every time, even if it's early on and you're not sure what her reaction will be.

I have a bizarrely-clear memory seared into my brain of a moment when I was walking with a girl, thought about doing this, and decided not to out of fear/uncertainty over if she would react negatively. I regret it.

Just do it. Embrace your protector role, making it your default way of living. If she recoils, then that relays important information to you about her as well.

99% of hormonally-healthy, naturally-feminine women will take a BIG mental note of this as a green flag, especially if you just do it by instinct. Hesitancy/asking for permission is not what men do.

While boys get stuck doing mental gymnastics, men ACT.

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When I was in my early 20s I was walking down the street with my then girlfriend. She was on the curb side of the sidewalk. A homeless gentlemen yelled at me that a man always walks on the curb side. And I never forgot it.

Lost his house but not his manners 💪

amazing

Same with opening doors for her. Paying for dinner. Picking her up and then driving her home. Having a next destination in mind (and alternates depending on how she’s feeling). The right woman appreciates all of these gestures. The wrong woman is talking herself out of liking them just like you said you were talking yourself out of doing them.

My wife is terrible at this. I always have to show her which side is hers. I thought she was doing it on purpose to test me, but she's just careless about it. She appreciates when I correct it, though.

Thought all men do this. Guess I was wrong? 🤔