You should be OK with filter.nostr.wine 🍷
You probably also have a bunch of dead users you can unload.
nostr:npub1aeh2zw4elewy5682lxc6xnlqzjnxksq303gwu2npfaxd49vmde6qcq4nwx maybe Daniel can help you, fren.
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Symptoms are that initial load is fine - or at least, looks fine, I can't verify it actually loaded notes from all follow. But after intial load, no new notes come in. It seems most relays are not willing to activate the subscription. Primal web seems to be working marginally better, but when using Amethyst it's broken, so there might also be some difference between clients.
Not sure how to go about unloading dead users. And it's circumventing the issue, it should just work™️ with a few thousand follows.
I'll see if I can torture the wine.
I pinged nostr:npub18kzz4lkdtc5n729kvfunxuz287uvu9f64ywhjz43ra482t2y5sks0mx5sz a while back and we solved the problem that was causing me to not be able to connect to the relay.
As for purging dead users, there is a script by nostr:npub1cpstx8lzhwctunfe80rugz5qsj9ztw8surec9j6mf8phha68dj6qhm8j5e that I used a few months ago, but it was fairly aggressive and killed a bunch of live ones to that took me some time to find and resurrect.
We raised this limit again today and should be able to support 4000 follows for both nostr.wine and filter.nostr.wine
Let me know if you still have any issues!