Two concepts most people COMPLETELY MISS regarding dating / mating.
1) Biological Imperative —- we are way more animal and lizard brain when it comes to mating than people are willing to acknowledge. Men want a woman that has biological qualities superior to their own. We lean toward fertility cues. (I.e hip to waist ratio — facial and body symmetry —- skin —- gait. Women lean toward men who provide —- physically, emotionally, financially.
Men and women are designed to “mate up”. But this often opens up a more emotional challenge.
2) Trauma. Most people have no clue that their historical connection to their opposite sex parent / care giver is the primary reason why they relate to the opposite sex the way that they do. This is the emotional undercurrent to the majority of their choices. Often a pattern emerges. Trite: “Mommy and Daddy issues”. The majority of the population has experienced a degree of sexual trauma. This distorts our choices until we understand and viscerally heal it.
