If you're lonely, it's nice to have a friend. Don't try the "long game", rather ask her to play "matchmaker"
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nostr:npub1qfvjgl0z8mupgxxa90f0zd5hg5d09t60sucf3tucjpgmh02sznfsl9et4g i kind of suspect she already did, because she introduced me to a friend who lost her husband recently
can't say this new person is anywhere near as active online though
also, she can't really play matchmaker to anyone in Oslo. she's not from Norway.