If you listened to #memewars by nostr:npub1dergggklka99wwrs92yz8wdjs952h2ux2ha2ed598ngwu9w7a6fsh9xzpc you could for sure come to the conclusion that it is our fault. If we understand Bitcoin also as a Community, we as parts of it define how open this community really is. And to be honest, Bitcoiners are quite far away from normies. So it is natural that we're not atracting normies to go down the rabbit hole. Herding here at the nostr doesnt make it better (but is fun for us)
But i understand what you mean. Yes you can't save a child from experiencing burning it's hand. You can just try to help not burning that hard.
It is the same with your friends. I unfortunately came to Bitcoin through shitcoins.