You can roughly gauge how desireable a woman is (for long-term relationships, where looks aren't the only measure), by whom she finds intimidating.

The "higher" those men tend to be, and the more caring and protective they are toward her (only reciprocal, platonic interactions are significant), the "higher" she generally is. Women who find men generally scary are lower-wrung because it means they feel inconsequential and unprotected, and they are orienting against "lower", scarier men. That's why higher women are more overtly vulnerable, which leads to an air of regality and gracefulness.

The lady is gentle because she is confident because she is protected by intimidating men.

Of course, what constitutes "intimidating" is subjective, depending upon (sub)culture.