I have seen everything: trying to force NIPs down the throat of devs, appeal to moral superiority, technical preciosity, social pressure at multiple levels, borderline bullying behaviour, etc. So much so that we have seen people leave because they thought they couldn't do their client in the way they wanted. Humans love to control each other. And nostr is not immune to that.
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You know that dealing with such design stress is part of the job for a product owner. Everyone tries to influence the specs and the road map.
I agree that Nostr is not immune to the attempt. I never expected it to be, nor do I think it should be.
Nostr allows devs to ignore the attempts, if they are convinced of their own choices. Which is amazing.
Yep, but ignoring it is easier said than done. Humans are not wired for that.
I don't think it should be easy to ignore. Social or emotional pressure is there to even the scales in debates. It creates balance, in human societies, when those in a position to affect changes can be influenced by others, and have to steel themselves, justify themselves, or reason through their own decisions.
Otherwise, there would be tyranny. Tyranny is when those in a position to affect changes no longer can be influenced by those who are affected by the changes.
Nostr, for better or worse, is a society. That is why it is fun, after all. This is the Not-Dead Internet.