Why do you assume setting high standards in a marriage is "an attitude of contempt"?
Wishy washy, feminine men who overaccomodate their wife are comforting themselves instead of loving their wife by *doing their duty*.
Why do you assume that the wife has no sin in such a manner? That wanting to leave a man's house and reenter the world... must be the man's fault?
You are making an idol of feminism, sir.
"Not a man sticking out his chest."
This type of gay tone policing is not Christianity.
You need to read this and reflect.
It's attitudes like yours that have completely surrendered the West to this modern feminist hellscape.
Study and repent.
Wow, you don't know me or my family and are telling me to repent.
I think we agree on the problems. And even most of the solutions.
I was simply adding some scriptural context. The reality is that most modern Christians don't wanna even talk about the roles of husbands and wives. Men need to be told to lead as you say, but also take ownership of their family and that includes being the priest of the home.
You need to know when to be firm and gentle. You aren't always firm or always gentle. It's not about how the husband feels. Paul advises men and women in the areas we struggle with. But you are talking to men and seeming to make light of the destruction of marrage. A man whose wife leaves him should look at himself not just what she did. It's called humility. It's not feminine to realize that we all have flaws.
You seem to need me to be something I'm not to fit into your frame.
LOL. OK bro.
Hardly. I would never marry a feminist in the first place. Nor am I supporting it. You don't know me. I don't know you. I simply see how what you wrote could be misunderstood by young men who (like me in my youth) had an inflated ego of my correctness.
Most young men are idiots and need good examples to correct them. The do need to be encouraged to be the man but it's more and deeper than the man being right.
"No husband following this would desire his wife to leave."
You assumed a desire to leave instead of a willingness to lead.
Women respond to actions not pleading. This is a sound strategy when confronted with a strength test disguised as a desire to exit a man's house.
Not suggesting pleading. But divorce should be a last thing not an exit plan. Your post reads like an exit plan.
You are this one assuming. Of course the wife would be sinning. But as a husband you still have your responsibility and if you are just looking for an out there's a deep problem.
Feminism is a massive issue leading to destruction. I think we can agree on that.
I think you are making a lot of assumptions. I'm doing nothing but stating the obvious here. Wives are to submit to the headship of the husband but your framing makes it sound like this is a business arrangement instead of promise made before God. A man should never enter into a marriage with the type of woman you are describing and the response sounds like a dude that doesn't really love his wife.
This is probably common. Two selfish people that will marry several times
