to be absolutely clear - i am NOT trying to influence your life decisions. quite the opposite - i tagged you because you previously expressed sentiment against marriage.

i do not give people advice unless i have a very high level of confidence that it will work for them. for example if i tell somebody to stay away from blacks or never trust Jews i have near 100% confidence that this advice will work out for them in the long run.

on other hand i would never advise somebody for or against marriage or buying bitcoin because there is a significant chance it will ruin their life and then they will hold me responsible for it.

from a selfish perspective i think it is good to have children - at least 3. from a moral perspective i think having children and killing children is pretty much the same thing - both equally immoral. because life is nothing more than a futile attempt to avoid death so to give life and to take it is the same thing basically.

so i also can't advise either for or against having children, whether as part of marriage or not.

as far as adoption it's the opposite - from moral perspective it is undeniably the right thing to do. but from perspective of self-interest it is quite a bad deal as it costs more and you end up with a child that will care less about you compared to having your own.