Just to clarify what was being expressed.

If you are using Firefox and it’s super slow and messing up your computer, you aren’t going to call your ISP and say that the Internet in general is slow.

There are things that need to be worked out in terms of how data is pulled in but the clients (the app you’re using) might be just grabbing tons of data to pull in stats.

I would also check how many relays you’re connected to. If you have a ton that’s going to be a lot more servers that you’re going to be pulling from.

Some of this are trade offs on decentralized design, some under our control.

I know some people are working on mobile friendly relay designs that will pull from multiple sources for you but the trade off is less decentralized.

Think fiatjaf is just saying it's a semantics thing. It's technically not nostr protocol causing the data crunch, it's whatever client you are using.